Shortly after publishing last month’s post, I received a package of letters from a group of sixth graders who we ran a ropes course for a couple months ago. It arrived almost on cue, as many of them shared their own positive fear-facing experiences. Here are some quotes:

“My favorite part… was the ropes course. You helped me to face my fears and to face other challenges. Something that I will always remember is zip-lining because it was really fun. Thank you again for being a helpful guide.” –Beatriz 

“My favorite part… was finding out more about me, and to see things I can do. You made this happen because every time I was at the top you would always cheer me on and support me. I will remember the time I got over my fears. I would like to thank you for all your help and support—you really changed my life.” –Amy

“I’ll always remember the rush of wind on my face while zip-lining… thanks for making it possible.” –Emily

As powerful as the confidence pole experience can be, the tension and physical nature of the experience admittedly makes it seem a little cliché. As much as I love seeing participants conquer the confidence pole, I’m equally as proud of them for tackling the less thrilling aspects of a ropes course. One opportunity comes after the action has died and the group settles down to talk about their day—identifying metaphors, celebrating their accomplishments, generating new goals. 

These groups are usually accustomed to communicating with each other on a formal, professional level. Then during the ropes course de-brief they are suddenly asked to share openly and be vulnerable. Often, nobody wants to be the one to address a problem that’s unearthed, to be the first to say what others won’t. They may feel compelled to criticize a business process or to suggest a change. It feels like in the best case they’ll look a little foolish, but in the worst case they put their job at risk.

Stepping up and speaking out can be scarier than climbing the confidence pole! The process of fighting through this fear takes just as much courage and can feel just as rewarding when it’s over. The good news is that, in my experience, those brave enough to speak out are usually rewarded with positive and supportive feedback.